- : "I know you don't really go by it, but I'm going to still call you [birth name] because that's what I'm used to. Sorry"
- : "don't be mad, but I don't think I'll ever be able to view you as a [gender] to be honest. Sorry'
- : "I just don't feel comfortable using that name/those pronouns with you...you know?"
- : "don't worry, I told them you were transgender"
Writing Nicholas Sparks: the Beast Apology University Last.fm Kerrigan Watches Bad Movies
Ask me anything!
My name is Kerrigan. I'm a trans* girl. I'm too punk rock for your shit.
We will dance into oblivion, my monster.
[general warning for child sexual abuse— no specifics or especially heavy things in this post]
Yesterday, I was at the store when I impulse bought a Hello Kitty sticker book. I sat down for a few minutes today and looked through it. The bulk of it is sticker pages, but on the bookends there are some silly activities. I went through one of them— two pages just asking you and your best friend to check off what you prefer given two different choices. Then, at the end, you compare to see how you and your friend are different. I decided to just do it for myself.
It’s obviously targeted towards girls half to one-third my age, so it was silly things. Radio or MP3 Player? Daytime or Nighttime? Biking or Skating? But there was something about it that really got to me. About halfway down the list, I realized what it was: I could not remember the last time someone had asked me questions like this and really, genuinely cared. Just boring, mundane little questions of personal preference.
But those boring things matter. They matter a lot because they gradually contribute to your overall image as a person. I am myself because my favorite color is ocean sun blue. I am myself because I would rather skate and feel my feet on the pavement than be disconnected two feet above the ground. I am myself because my favorite foods are all carbs. Other people may have these same interests, but only I can like them in the precise, unique way that I like them.
In the grand scheme of wars and politicians and death and life, it seems so insignificant. But for me, it means a lot to have someone ask me these questions. I’d even consider it a luxury, or a privilege to be able to do this. I was not given a childhood in which people regularly asked me these things— questions about how i feel, and responses about how the way i feel matters. When you’ve lived a life of constant struggle and change, it matters twice as much that you are able to know and enjoy that you prefer ice cream over cake, or cats over dogs. It matters so much.
A Hello Kitty sticker book should not make a 21 year old cry. But here I am, and I am trying very hard not to.
Oh, this struck home so hard.
ignatius-m asked: butts, spanking, extraterrestrials, angels in america (which I still haven't seen), and nicholas sparks being tortured by dramatic readings of his own fiction combined with snarky commentary.
I swear to God, I could quit this blog right now and it would be complete for this post.
USEFUL WAYS OF TAGGING: #[topic] cw, #[topic] tag, #[topic] tw, #[topic] trigger warning, #[topic] content warning, #[topic] talk, etc.
this is so people who use tumblr savior to block [topic] can just block one thing: #[topic] which appears in each one of these tags. blocking the word without the hashtag may hide many posts that weren’t actually about [topic], especially if it’s a common word or phrase. it’s an inconvenience
NOT USEFUL WAYS OF TAGGING: #tw: [topic], #cw: [topic], #trigger warning: [topic], #content warning: [topic]
this forces a person who wants to block posts that are about [topic] to block every single variation of these, filling up their blacklist and making it slower. it also increases the likelihood that the person will not have blocked any single variation.
WORST TAGS: #trigger warning, #content warning, #tw, #cw
these tags are absolutely useless for warning people about topics. just
for example, here are some common topics someone might choose to avoid: violence, blood, (grosspost), insects, snakes, food, eating disorders, body horror, rape, self-injury, suicide, sexism, racism, ableism, abuse, etc. etc.
many of these have absolutely nothing in common, labeling them all with “trigger warning” is of no help to anyone. “trigger warning” could mean there’s a picture of graphic violence or it could means there’s a picture of somebody eating a salad. it doesn’t mean anything.
also, if you want to be sure things don’t end up in the tracked tags!
tagging posts so that people can use TS to automatically block them can be handy, but you might also be concerned that people will be tracking some of those tags maliciously to harass people. if you’re worried about this (like I was)
* first off, only the first five tags will show up in tracked tags. So if it’s tags that probably aren’t going to be a problem - for example, my first tag there is “maybe a repeat reblog idc” and there is a 0% chance literally anyone will have been tracking that tag already and see this - you can put them in the first five.
* you can round out the remaining five with empty pointless tags like my fifth tag “/” below
* you can add a bunch of anything after [topic], because someone might be tracking “#[topic]”, but it’s very unlikely that anyone will be tracking “#[topic] a;sdlkjf;sdlkjf]” ; however, someone who’s blocked “#[topic]” will still not see the post despite the keysmash you added afterwards.
* to be absolutely sure the first five CANNOT show up in tracked tags, you can add a string of characters like ” -/-” to the end of a tag, like I did with the “#blogkeeping -/-” tag below! Anyone who’s blocked the term would still have it blocked, but if you try to click that specific tag, it actually won’t show any posts. This is because of the way tumblr parses the space, dash, and slash; I don’t know the specifics, nor the minimum needed to break it and ensure that it can’t actually be tracked, but this is sufficient.
* you’ll notice I also added the ” -/-” to the “tagging” tag. It wasn’t in the first five anyway, so this is unnecessary from the POV of keeping people tracking the tag “#topic” from finding your post. However, this also keeps people who know your blog from being able to easily find the post by going to [yoururl].tumblr.com/tagged/[topic]. the ” -/-” breaks it and no results will be displayed, just like with tracked tags.
I just had a beautiful sexual experience with a beloved friend and that makes me so happy.
subliminaltwist asked: your new avi is really eye-searing xoxo why did you let go of coffee Eris? I thought she and I had a real connection.
I’m a bit bored of Coffee Eris :P she was my background for a long time.
The new Eris is colorful, and yes, eye-searing~